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 HAPPY 2005!!!
I hereby wishing all in Multiply a fruitful 2005.
Have a wonderful year and may happiness be with you from 1 Jan 2005 to 31 Dec 2005.
Warmest Wishes,
Amanda Tay 
As promised, I went jogging again this morning. Slightly better. Just a slight improvement. However, I still couldn't catch my breath. Still felt like dying... I wonder if I will go again next week. Or will I come up with some excuse not to go.
Go? Don't Go? Go? Don't Go? *headache*
today i did something that surprise my whole family. i went jogging! the last time i jog was err... more than 10 years ago. after jogging for 15 mins, i could hardly catch my breath. felt like fainting. felt like dying. hmm... actually not bad liao lah. i thought i couldn't last more than 5 mins. a big achievement liao lah. next week will go again (hopefully). ^_^
 1. TIME
You must be willing to spend time with your friends. I must admit, I probably have lost some friends through the years because I have said, "I don't have time," when they invited me to go places or share experiences with them. The more honest truth is I didn't choose to make the time. We all tend to make time for the things we want to do. We must also make time for the relationships we desire to have.
When we don't have time for our friends, we likely aren't valuing our friends as we should. We also must be aware that we have only so much time in life, and we likely have only the necessary time for a handful of genuine deep friendships. That does not mean we can't have more casual friendships---but for a truly deep friendship to develop, time together is a vital ingredient.
2. TALK
A second building block to a good relationship is talk. Conversation is the way you discover more about a person-it is a window through which to peer into another person's heart, mind, soul, and spirit. The more you converse with a person and see inside that person, the more you know about the person. And the more you know about a person, the more you love him or her--or perhaps, the more you realize that your friendship is likely to be short-lived.
Through the years I've heard countless wives say about their husbands, "I just wish he'd talk to me." The fact is--these wives wanted to know their husbands better. They wanted to know what their husbands were thinking and feeling. When a man doesn't talk to his wife, he puts up a barrier to her understanding him. Husband . . . take time to talk to your wife. You may not feel a need to talk, but she needs to hear you talk!
When you are with a friend, the topic of your conversation doesn't really matter. I meet regularly on Saturday mornings to have breakfast with three of my buddies. We go to the same restaurant every Saturday--in fact, the restaurant personnel are so accustomed to our coming that they set aside a certain table just for us.
These three men are in professions different from mine, but we have many common interests. What do we discuss? Anything and everything. We talk about whatever pops into our minds. Our conversation is free-flowing, easy, and natural--no subject is off-limits, no topic is too trivial or too big. We are open with one another. We are friends,
3. SHARED TEARS AND LAUGHTER
Genuine friends cry together and laugh together. If a person is a genuine friend, you should have no hesitation whatsoever in going to that person when you are hurt, rejected, or disappointed . . . or when you have a triumphant moment! Those who stuff all of their emotions--both sorrow and joy--do damage to their own physical health. We all need the "release" of tears and laughter in order to vent our emotions.
4. EXPRESSED THANKFULNESS
A friend voices thanksgiving for his or her friends. Not too long ago, one of my friends showed up just when I needed someone to talk to about a situation I was facing. I said to him, "You have an uncanny way of showing up just when I need a listening ear and feel the need to pour out my heart. I'm thankful for you in my life. I'm thankful for the direction and wise counsel you give me!" And I am.
I have a photographer friend who calls me about once a week. I'm never quite sure where he'll be when he calls--one of his recent calls was from Paris. I can always count on his saying two things to me at some point in the call:
"I'm grateful to God for our friendship" and "I love you, brother." To have a friend who will openly and frequently make those two statements is a wonderful thing! If you haven't told a friend lately that you are grateful to God for his presence in your life . . . or if you haven't said, "I love you," to a friend. . . I encourage you to do so.
5. THOUGHTFUL GESTURES
Sometimes the best way to show your appreciation for a friend is to do something for your friend or give something to your friend. The deed or item need not be grandiose or extravagant--rather, something that conveys the message, "I'm thinking of you. I listen to you. I know what you like--yes, even what you need." A friend takes joy in giving something that he knows his friend desires.
One of my friends is a tremendous giver. He is always sending me something that he thinks I'll enjoy--since he travels a lot and we have a number of common interests, his gifts are always meaningful to me and sometimes rather unusual. As much as I have protested about his gifts to me, he continues to send them. One day he said to me, "I'm just a giver. It's what I do. You can't ever out give me, so don't even try. I get a lot of joy out of giving. Don't rob me of that joy by telling me not to give."
Husband, does your wife like flowers? Surprise her with a bundle of flowers now and then. Giving her something that you know she likes is a way of saying, "I'm glad you're in my life." Similarly, wife, give your husband something every now and then that is a special surprise, which says, "I am >glad you're with me."
A woman told me recently what a friend had done for her. This woman had received word that a family of five was on its way to spend a week at her home while they enrolled their daughter in a nearby college. She had shared news of their impending visit with her friend. The next day, that friend showed up with a large casserole and the comment, "I made extra. I thought you might be able to use this." This woman said, "Now that's a friend! She knew exactly what would bless me most on that particular day."
6. TOLERANCE
Friends tolerate the occasional bad mood, the hurtful comment said in haste, or the bad attitude that's the result of being too tired or too stressed out. Sometimes tolerance means putting up with an annoying habit. Sometimes it means cutting that person some slack when he's fifteen minutes late again. Not long ago, I sat and listened to a friend of mine tell a story I've heard so many times I could tell it in detail myself. This man knew I'd heard the story. Everybody else at the table had heard it. But we all listened as if we were listening for the first time. He's our friend.
7. TOUCHING
There's power in appropriate touching between friends. A genuine friend should be someone you feel you can hug, someone you can pat on the back. A while back, I was eating alone in a restaurant, and I noticed that a certain man in the restaurant was giving his waitress a very hard time about something. Rather than respond in a negative manner, she reached out and touched him lightly on the shoulder and said, "I'm sorry . . " She didn't have to say anything more. The instant she touched him, he meltedâhis countenance changed and so did the tone of his voice.
Most people are hungry to be touched--it's a sign to them of care, empathy, concern, appreciation, and value. If a person comes to me after a church service and tells me that he's heart broken--perhaps his wife has abandoned their family, he has been left alone with their children, and he doesn't know where to turn or what to do--this man doesn't want me to keep my distance and say coldly, "Well, I know God will help you."
No. He wants a pastor who will reach out and hug him or put his arm around him and
look him in the eye and say, "I hurt for you. I'm going to pray for you and believe
for God's best in your life. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help you."
I am certainly not advocating that you hug every person in sight, or that you be overly affectionate with casual acquaintances. You must be sensitive to what another person needs and desires--you should touch another person only in a way you know is comfortable for that person. A friend, however, should be someone that you don't think twice about touching when you desire to express pure, nonsexual affection, comfort, or appreciation.
8. TRANSPARENCY
Transparency means not holding deceitful motives, hiding your feelings, or harboring a secret agenda in your dealings with another person. If you are going to develop a genuine friendship with another person, you are going to have to let that person see the real you.
THE SUM IS LOVE
All of these building blocks add up to one simple four-letter word: love. A person you love is a person you spend time with, talk to, cry with and laugh with, are thankful for, do thoughtful things for, tolerate without complaining, touch with affection, are transparent with, speak the truth to, and trust. The cardinal principle for having a deep, close, godly friend is to be such a friend.
 Attitude Towards Love
To find your love attitude number, add your birth month and your birth date together. Keep reducing it until it's a single digit.
Example: August 20
= 8 + 20 = 28
= 2 + 8 = 10
= 1 + 0 = 1
Thus, the love attitude number is = 1
1
You're charming imaginative and independent. Usually your style is ahead of others, you know what's in and what's way out. Sometimes you're a little too aggressive when it comes to pursuing a love interest. You've a way of drawing attention wherever you go and this dramatic flare usually attracts the strongest guys. Your competitive nature either draws or repels guys/gals but those who can't handle your power aren't your type anyway. At times you can be possessive, manipulating and demanding with your friends and in love relationships. You like guys/gals with lots of intelligence and knock them dead good looks don't hurt either.
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2
Your love nature is sentimental, romantic and kind. Your easygoing, mild manner allows almost everyone to feel very comfortable with you - especially shy guys/gals. Your modesty and tact enable you to get along easily with both sexes. You're a natural peacemaker and can be very persuasive with words, which helps you to gain the respect of your classmates. You can also be too sensitive at times, and your greatest drawback is a lack of confidence to stand up for yourself in conflict. Your favorite type of guy/gal is a gentle, affectionate one who is also strong and playful. A great sense of humor is also a must. A guy/gal who loves to listen to music and dance should rank high on your list of favorites, too.
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3
You're imaginative, fun-loving, trill-seeking and expressive. You're so charming that you attract many friends and you're almost never lacking guys/gals. In your earlier years, you maybe totally shy and self-conscious, but you'll lose those qualities in the high-school years. You can be sort of vain or even a bit of a show-off when you get caught up in exciting events in your life, but you usually redeem yourself in some playful way before you lose a friend. Jealousy shows its ugly head sometimes, but generally you aren't affected by it unless your guy tries to provoke it. In the guy department, you refer the athletic or artistic types. You're in absolute heaven when you find both of those qualities in the same guy. When you're looking for love, a guy who can make you laugh scores points, big time!
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4
You tend to be loyal, dedicated and good-hearted. You're one of the most diligent students when you really try, and you tend to make your schoolwork a priority. You also express those same qualities in your love relationship. No one is more faithful and trusting than you. In fact, those tendencies can be a little negative in your romantic life. It give you the respect and love you deserve. You can be stubborn and a bit of a troublemaker if the mood strikes you but you can usually dig yourself out of that hole just in time to stay out of major trouble. You usually fall for extremes when choosing a love mate - he/she is good-looking, too, but that's not a major consideration for you.
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5
Your love attitude is adventurous, charismatic and spontaneous. You're creative and adaptable, and you can come up with the most exciting and sometimes daring things to do. Your quick intelligence and way with words help get you out of the problems that come with being flirtatious and laying hard to get. You need to pay close attention to your personal values because you love to try new and different things and easily go along with the crowd and the consequences can put extra strain on your relationship with a boy/girl. You like guys who have great bodies and good looks, along with exceptional brain and high grades. It helps if they're highly athletic or involved in as many activities as you,otherwise you might get bored! Variety is the key to your love attitude number.
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6
You're warm, loving, devoted and affectionate. Your outgoing, thoughtful nature attracts many boyfriends/girlfriends to you, and usually some of the nicest guys too. Because of your need to care, you can end up in a relationship that requires too much care-taking to make it balanced. Since home and family play important roles in your life, you're unlikely to be attracted to guys/gals who your parents wouldn't like. Sometimes you've a slight jealous streak but it doesn't last long. Some people with this love attitude number are prone to making ha! rsh judgments of others, especially when others don't share your set of values. You're especially attracted to the good looking, boy-next-door type who is smart as well as a gentleman.
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7
Your love nature is thoughtful, poetic, mystical and mysterious. A few people with love attitude number seven are class clowns, and they usually attract guys/gals who like to be given a hard time. But most of you are the quiet, reserved types who dislike calling attention to yourself. Your type generally attracts guys who feel the same way you do. Your defined, independent and secretive nature is very alluring to certain guys/gays. At times, you can also be somewhat fault-finding and a little demanding in your love relationship and with friends. You're mostly attracted to guys/gals who aren't like all the rest; a loner easily attracts you. And, if he/she reads alot and enjoy learning, he/she is especially perfect for you.
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8
Your love attitude is confident, powerful and exciting. This number usually makes for a very conscientious student, someone who puts schoolwork ahead of a social life. However, you also enjoy being a leader among your classmates and will seek offices or other positions that enable you to use your leadership skills. Because of this, you can be somewhat intimidating to certain guys/gals. You can also be a little too intense, bossy and jealous for your own good. Your love match is definitely someone who is smart, handsome/pretty and popular. You like quality over quantity and will usually wait until the guy/gal with the best attributes comes along.
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9
You've a sophisticated attitude that's also generous and considerate. Your responsible, charitable nature may find you attracting guys/gals who want someone to confide in or who makes them feel secure. At a very young age, you developed the type of personality that makes others feel safe and protected. You'll carry these qualities into your adult years and, down the road, you'll be a good mom/dad because of them. On the negative side, you can be argumentative and overly emotional, and you usually possess a temper that can make everyone run for cover. You like the kind of guy/gal who is responsible and impeccably dressed and has gorgeous eyes and a great body. Charm, with and brilliance could make
him the perfect guy/gal for you.
 L O V E - A Journey
Why hold someone back..when u know u don't love them...
Why keep them to yourself...when u know you won't wanna have them?
Why let them miss other chances...when they can have them?
If you really don't love someone....let them go...hurt them now...not
later...for a longer relationship builds stronger emotions..
A good relationship isn't a game you play or an ego trip you take.
It is about love and two people.
Loving someone can give us the greatest joy we can ever know and it can
hurt more than we can believe too.
When it does not really hurt when that person did something disappointing
to you, but really hurts when you see that person in pain and sadness,
then you know you truly love that person.
Loving someone means you should be ready to experience heartache and
happiness at the same time.That's the reward and that's the risk.
Unless we are willing to experience it, we will never really know what
it's like to love and be loved.
Sharing love is probably the most valuable and meaningful experience a
person can ever have.And there's a difference between being in love with
someone and loving someone.
It's the difference between a love that's fickle, wild and short-lived and
one that's tender and passionate, nurturing and lasts a long time.The
first is easy.
The second, the one that really matters to all of us,takes work because
it's about keeping a relationship.
Loving someone takes efforts.
We have to be able to communicate with each other.
Nobody can read anyone else's mind.
We always presume that our partner knows what we think and feel.
Maybe in time we might be able to predict or sense each other's thoughts
but it's never perfect and takes time to develop.
Getting the chance to love and be loved by someone is blessed.
Respect him/her for who he/she is, and not what you want him/her to be.
Everyone is pretty and special in his/her own special way.
No one is perfect.
It is true love which closes the gap of imperfectness to form a smooth
surface of acceptance for each other. True love sees and accepts a person
for who he/she is. It is also true love which makes a person change for
the better. The power of true love to a person is undeniable.
A relationship needs commitments too.
What is love without commitments from each other anyway?
It's like principles and values.
Everyone has them but they only mean as much as we are willing to stand
for them.
The same goes for our commitments to relationships, and the person we
love.
"Love is like an antique vase. It's hard to find, hard to net, but easy to
break."
Every day everywhere, people fall in love ... but just how many of these
relationships are self-sacrificing love, and not just relationships which
are formed only for the intense feeling of falling in love?
I know hundreds of friends who say the magical words "I love you" ... but
more often than not, the truth is just -- I am IN love with you. There is
a difference between being in love with someone and loving someone.
If a person says he/she is in love with you, he/she means that he/she
likes you for who you are now and he/she fell in love with you because of the
present you.
This kind of love is temporary and lasts only as long as the fairytale
lasts.
When fairy godmother comes in at midnight to whirl us back to reality, we
see the heartache of such a relationship... where both were only IN love
with each other.
But if a person says he/she loves you, he/she means that he/she loves you
unconditionally for who you are now, who you were in the past and who you
might be in the future.
When he/she says he/she loves you and really means it, you have to ask
yourself if you love him/her too or if you're in love with the idea of
being in love.
It is very hard to see the difference through logical thinking. Let your
heart guide u.
May you be blessed on your soul-searching journey for your soul mate.
ARE YOU REALLY IN LOVE? ASK YOURSELF!
Is this true love?
Do I really love him/her?
Or izzit just another infatuation?
R U willing to give?
Even though you may not get back the same amount you gave?
R U cheating yourself?
Thinking that you really love him/her and not just taking him/her as a
substitute for your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend?
Friends, let today be the day....... you truly understand love.......
If after reading this and answering all the questions,you are very sure
that you love him/her, tell him/her that.Let him/her know how much you
love him/her and that you are willing to take the risks of being hurt by
him/her in the course of the development of your relationship with him/her. This
is a love that's sacrificial, R U ready for it? If you accept someone's
philosophy that is simply their rationalisation to justify their failure,
you accept their failures!"
**The greatest regrets in our lives are the risks we did not take.
**If you think something will make you happy, go for it.
**Remember that we pass this way only once.**
Take the quiz: "What type of attitude problem do you have? (pics)"
 Your Sarcastic....Like meThis is supposed to be the lowest form of humor...But i think its the best because its mean and funny. Besides like me you probably cant help it anymore. Here's a phrase for you...
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 | Argh.... | Oct 13, '04 9:57 AM
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Planned to go swimming with sister today. I can't even remember when was the last time I swam. However, it rained!!! KaoZ... Heavy downpour. Thought it's time I started exercising to shed those kgs away. "Sigh".. In the end, we ended up at cafe cartel to have our dinner. Think instead of losing a kg, I put on another kg. :(
Take the quiz: "Which God or Goddess are you?"
 God of LightInnocent and a bit shy, but pure and clear at the same time. You are one half of the true god, combing light with darkness makes the whole world live. You tend to do whatever is going on, go with the flow, ya know?
| Bad Mood | Sep 24, '04 12:23 PM
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In a damn lousy mood. Too many things to think, yet dun even have the guts to start thinking. Instead of finding solutions, I spent the whole day cleaning up the house. I tidied my warerobe, tidied the desk, packed the storeroom and cleaned the dressing table. I threw away lots of stuff, stuff dat I had kept for years, stuff dat had always been very dear to me. Packed & packed & packed. Even mum commented dat i was crazy. Kept finding things to tidy or to throw. Think she will love to see me in such a mood again, coz now my place looks so clean & tidy.
Wednesday (2235hrs)
Feeling: Sick
I think I am falling sick! I am dying.... I am dying.... I am DEAD!
Tuesday (2139hrs)
Joy is sick! Joy is my niece. Last week it was yen yen. Now it's joy. Poor little girls... Went to visit her in the afternoon. Took a nap & went to town to have dinner. Basically, I haven't start work yet. =X Later.. Later! Meeting Skid for work purposes.
Monday (1928hrs)
Feeling: Lazy
Too lazy to type anything... Boring day. A day wasted.
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